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Many of us identify as middle class. It provides us with an identity that is respectable, and implies that we are “normal.”

After all, if you are middle class, you aren’t stuck with some of the stigmas that can come with being poor, and you are painted with the elitist brush for being rich. Middle class is a comfortable place to be for many of us.

It also helps, too, that middle class identity is probably deeply ingrained in your psyche. Many of the children of Baby Boomers (I’m one) grew up in the middle class, espousing “middle class values.” My experience was one of being poor until I was about 12, since my parents got married relatively young and started having kids.

Then, once my dad finished school and began making more money, we moved into a middle class neighborhood, able to afford the necessities of life, and some of the luxuries. The middle class mentality, for many in my generation, is based on similar experiences: Remembering the poor life as our parents initially struggled, but enjoying greater comfort as they began earning more.

But middle class is more than just your own mindset. It also includes numbers. Many of those who have a middle class mentality might not actually be considered middle class when it gets right down to income. [click to continue…]

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If you’re married or in a serious relationship, then you’ve probably already heard all the advice about how to manage your finances together: communicate, create goals together, don’t hide information from each other. This advice all sounds easy to do – and it’s certainly easy to give! But people aren’t perfect and neither are relationships. So what do you do if you simply can’t see eye to eye with your partner on your finances?

Defeat Defeatism

It can be a scary moment when you and your partner first realize that you don’t see eye to eye on your finances. You might see him or her in a whole different light. How could your seemingly logical fiance really believe that she should go shopping every month? How can your normally frugal husband think it’s okay to purchase lunch out every day? See what I mean?

First, try to suspend judgement. We all have something in life that we like to do that isn’t logical. I, for example, refuse to buy lunch out every day. But if a long day calls for an afternoon mocha from the local coffee shop…I’m probably not going to say no. So rather than think that this disagreement is a foreboding sign for your relationship, remember that we all have little splurges that don’t always make sense. It doesn’t make us bad people – it just makes us people.
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