Do you ever feel like you can only learn things the hard way?
That you were told what to expect in certain areas of life but couldn’t fully understand until experiencing it firsthand? I know I do. My most recent first hand lesson was just a few months ago – planning my wedding.
I’ve heard that weddings are hard but I never could have truly grasped the amount of turmoil they can cause in your life without going through it myself. Between the money, the time, and the inevitable disagreements on howitshouldlookwhereitshouldbehowmanypeopleshouldbeinvited, it can feel nearly impossible to get through.
And by the time my husband (still feels weird to say that word!) and I got to the other side, we were convinced that nothing we go through together could ever be that hard again. We were lean, mean, conflict-busting machines.
…and then it came time to sit down and work on our finances together. We had planned to do this prior to the wedding, but with both of us working at startups (read: long hours) and planning a wedding from across the country (SF to NY), we just didn’t have the bandwidth to talk about our finances. So we saved the couples finance talk until after the wedding. Not exactly the best strategy…